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  • Shelly Roberts

WHAT YOUR FRIENDS {WITH CHILDREN AFFECTED BY DISABILITY} NEED

Sometimes we struggle to reach out, not because we don’t want to, but rather because we’re just not sure what would be helpful. After having been on the disability journey for several years, I’ve found there are three main things that can make a world of difference to families.



SHOW UP. It’s ok if you don’t know what to say. Chances are you can’t really change your friend’s circumstances. Just being reminded that they aren’t facing them alone will mean so much. Showing up might be an actual in-person visit during a long hospital stay. A bonus is walking in with their favorite treat they can’t buy at the building they currently reside in. It might also be a text with something funny or a scripture to cling to. The reality is that a life affected by disability can feel really lonely. You can be that reminder they aren’t alone.


SEND HELP. No doubt your friend faces exhaustion daily. While there are many things you probably can’t do for them, there are so very many that you can. Receiving a gift card in the mail for pizza will mean they can focus on their family that evening instead of juggling one more thing. Taking care of a tank or two of gas for them can be a huge load-lifter when they put on so many miles for appointments. Offering to be taxi for another family member can be one of the best practical helps there is, especially if they can’t leave the house with a fragile child. Hint: if you ask them what they need, they will likely struggle to tell you. Offering specific things is so helpful. One of my favorites is when a friend will offer to get what I need at the store.


STAY CONNECTED. It might have to look a little different in various seasons. As their children age it might take some creativity, especially if it’s difficult for them to come visit you in your home that has stairs to enter. You might notice their church attendance is slim during flu season. Don’t forget them. Send a text and ask how their week is going. See about stopping in for a quick visit over coffee {and take some chocolate!}. Ask them how you can pray for them. I guarantee you, they will be deeply encouraged by your efforts.


Get creative. Don’t wait for the perfect opportunity to present itself. Keep it simple. Your friend doesn’t need your extravagance. They need your sincerity. Jesus modeled to us so beautifully how to be a friend and meet the needs of others.


John 15:13 “Greater love has no one than this; to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.”

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